Well, if you want man I can jump into your server with you and help set you up, maybe even help you transfer to the one I play on. You don't have to join my tribe if you don't want to.
When I first started I played solo and just tweaked the setting to learn meaning up the loot and up your damage a bit and so on once it is easy turn setting back slowly
Welcome to ark! It is an unforgiving game to new players and the unexperienced. Just claw your way through. Or join a tribe of good people who will help teach you.
Listen to others, going in solo and a newb is the hardest way to play any server. I learned the basics of Ark from a friend. Got kicked from the tribe so me and my boyfriend started fresh on the same server, went from being a big tribe to living in a raft. We got a big hand from the alpha tribe and learned efficiency doing things as two people. Only when we got more members did we really excel.